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Remembering Police Officers who Lost their Lives in the Line of Duty

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POLICE FAMILY SUPPORT

This Page is Dedicated to Our Friend
Edna Williams (Dolan)
25th June 1922 - 7th September 2007

Lest We Forget

The Trust aims to remember both those who have died and those left behind.

We are pleased to hear from families, partners and relatives of officers who lost their lives in the line of duty. Whether you wish to know more about how your loved one will be remembered, or about support available to bereaved families, or simply to seek advice, please feel free to contact us.

Any relative or partner of an officer on the Roll may register as a Police Family Member of the Trust without cost or commitment and you are invited to do so. This allows us to keep in touch with families, exchanging information on fallen officers and their memorials. We currently maintain contact with nearly 400 families and relatives of officers who have died on duty.

For an application form or further information just click here or call us on Freephone 0800 652 6109.

If we cannot give answers to any question we aim to direct you to someone who can.

Links to Bereavement Support Charities and Organisations

Organisation Name

Scope of Work

Contact / Website Link

Support - General

Care of Police Survivors

Registered Charity No. 1101478

COPS is run by survivors for survivors it places new survivors in touch with those who are prepared to help. Membership is open to spouses, partners, children, parents and siblings of officers who have lost their lives in the line of duty.

PO Box 5685

Rugeley

WS15 9DN

Telephone 0844 893 2055

www.ukcops.org

Cruse Bereavement Care

Registered Charity No. 208078

Cruse promotes the well-being of bereaved people and enables anyone bereaved by death to understand their grief and cope with their loss. The organisation provides counselling and support, information and advice.

Helpline 0844 477 9400

www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk

Support for Bereaved Spouse or Partner

Royal Ulster Constabulary George Cross
Widows Association

Telephone 028 9039 3562
www.rucgcwidowsassociation.org.uk

The WAY Foundation

Registered Charity No. 1072649

Telephone 0870 011 3450
www.wayfoundation.org.uk

Support for Bereaved Parents and their Families

Royal Ulster Constabulary George Cross
Parents Association

Providing Welfare and Support to the Parents of Murdered RUC Officers.

Telephone 028 7032 7279

Email rucgcpa@nipolicefund.org

The Compassionate Friends

Registered Charity No.1082335

The Compassionate Friends (TCF) is an organisation of bereaved parents and their families offering understanding, support and encouragement to others after the death of a child or children.

Helpline 0845 123 2304

www.tcf.org.uk

Support for Bereaved Children

The Child Bereavement Trust

Registered Charity No. 1040419

The Child Bereavement Trust (CBT) is a unique national charity working to help grieving families when a child dies or when a child is bereaved.

Telephone 01494 446648

www.childbereavement.org.uk

Winston's Wish

Registered Charity No. 1061359

Winston's Wish helps bereaved children and young people rebuild their lives after a family death, offering practical support and guidance to families, professionals and anyone concerned about a grieving child.

Helpline 08452 030405

www.winstonswish.org.uk

Support for those bereaved by Murder or Manslaughter

SAMM - Support after Murder & Manslaughter

Registered Charity No. 1000598

Helpline 020 7735 3838

www.samm.org.uk

Police Related Financial Support

Police Dependants' Trust

Registered Charity No. 251021

The Police Dependants' Trust exists to assist in cases of need: dependants of police officers or former police officers who die or have died as a result of an injury received in the execution of duty.

Telephone 0208 941 6907

www.policedependantstrust.org.uk

Official, Legal and Practical Advice including Post Mortems, Inquests, Funerals

When Sudden Death Occurs

Official Leaflet offering help and guidance about what to do from the moment of a person's death.

A website dedicated to providing as much practical information and support as possible, in one easy place.

www.ifishoulddie.co.uk

Online Remembrance/Memorial website

Much Loved

Registered Charity No. 1118590

To help you create sensitive, personalised and lasting memorial websites in memory of loved ones.

www.muchloved.com

Verses for the Bereaved

All is Well

Death is nothing at all. It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we
lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way,
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort,
without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.

Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting
when we meet again!
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From a sermon delivered in 1910 by
Henry Scott Holland (1847-1918)
Canon of St. Paul's Cathedral

“We Remember Them”

At the rising of the sun and at its
going down, we remember them.

At the blowing of the wind and in
the chill of winter, we remember them.

At the opening of buds and in the
rebirth of spring, we remember them.

At the blueness of the skies and in the
warmth of summer, we remember them.

At the rustling of leaves and in the
beauty of autumn, we remember them.

At the beginning of the year and
when it ends, we remember them.

As long as we live, they too will live;
for they are now a part of us,
as we remember them.

When we are weary and in need
of strength, we remember them.

When we are lost and sick at heart,
we remember them.

When we have decisions that are
difficult to make, we remember them.

 When we have joys we yearn to share,
we remember them.

As long as we live, they too shall live,
 for they are a part of us,

as we remember them….
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Author Unknown - Judaism

Remember

Remember me when I am gone away,
    Gone far away into the silent land;
    When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.

Remember me when no more day by day
    You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.

Yet if you should forget me for a while
    And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
    For if the darkness and corruption leave
    A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,

Song (Requiem)

When I am dead, my dearest,
Sing no sad songs for me;
Plant thou no roses at my head,
Nor shady cypress tree:
Be the green grass above me
With showers and dewdrops wet;
And if thou wilt, remember,
And if thou wilt, forget.

I shall not see the shadows,
I shall not feel the rain;
I shall not hear the nightingale
Sing on, as if in pain:
And dreaming through the twilight
That doth not rise nor set,
Haply I may remember,
And haply may forget.
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Christina Rossetti
(1830-1894)

The Rose Beyond the Wall

Near shady wall a rose once grew,
Budded and blossomed in God's free light,
Watered and fed by morning dew,
Shedding its sweetness day and night.

As it grew and blossomed fair and tall,
Slowly rising to loftier height,
It came to a crevice in the wall,
Through which there shone a beam of light.

Onward it crept with added strength,
With never a thought of fear or pride,
It followed the light through the crevice's length
And unfolded itself on the other side.

The light, the dew, the broadening view,
Were found the same as they were before,
And it lost itself in beauties new,
Breathing its fragrance more and more.

Shall claim of death cause us to grieve
And make our courage faint and fall?
Nay!  Let us faith and hope receive -
The rose still grows beyond the wall.

Scattering fragrance far and wide
Just as it did in days of yore,
Just as it did on the other side,
Just as it will forevermore.
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A L Frink 1936

A Parable of Immortality

I am standing upon that foreshore.
A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength and I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and the sky come down to mingle with each other.
Then someone at my side says,
'There, She’s gone!'
'Gone where?’
‘Gone from my sight, that’s all’.
She is just as large in mast and spar and hull as ever she was when she left my side; just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of her destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at that moment when someone at my side says,
'There, she’s gone!'
there are other eyes watching her coming and other voices ready
to take up the glad shout.
'Here she comes!'
And that is dying.
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Henry Van Dyke (1852-1933)
[sometimes attributed to Victor Hugo]

Do not stand at my grave and weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight,
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
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Mary Fry (1905-2004)

For the Fallen

They shall grow not old,
as we that are left grow old:

Age shall not weary them,
nor the years condemn.

At the going down of the sun
and in the morning

We will remember them.
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Extract from "For the Fallen" 1914
Lawrence Binyon (1869-1943)

Funeral of Constable James Dolan, Hampshire, killed on duty
2nd December 1956, aged 36, leaving his wife and 5 young children.

Mrs Edna Dolan and her family soon after the death on duty
of husband and father Constable James Dolan 1956.
Over 40 years later Edna became one of our first supporters,
deriving great comfort from the work of the Trust.

 They will never forget - nor should we.